a Woman's Authority

More accurately, concerning an area of women's authority specified in the Bible...

Kevin Bauder wrote what I've posted below during a discussion on pastoral authority. Personally I found these thoughts more useful than the overall essay in stimulating my thoughts toward careful, biblical thinking.  Obviously, this is addressing a very particular slice of life, but it seems like one that should be given deeper thought, by men especially.

   [...] Significantly, 1 Timothy 5:14 does not present the wife exercising oikodespotein under her husband’s delegation, but under God’s. What this probably means is that a wife has a sphere of authority—actual, decision-making power—that comes directly from God and not by grant from her husband. Her responsibility is to govern the household. In a modern home, this responsibility would give her authority over such matters as meals, décor, and cleanliness. She can tell her husband to move the sofa. She can decide what color the walls will be, how to hang the drapes, and whether the home will have hardwood floors or wall-to-wall carpeting. She has the authority to order her husband to take out the garbage or to pick up his socks and put them in the hamper, and he needs to obey her.

Even though the text does not indicate that this household authority is mediated through the husband, a wise wife will exercise it deferentially rather than demandingly. Within his sphere of authority the husband will do the same. In any case, within a certain sphere the authority of the wife acts as a check upon and limitation of the patriarchal authority of the husband and father. [...]

 (The full essay: Bishops and Fathers.)